Okay, first--I totally suck. I haven't started my 30-day Buns of Steel challenge yet. Yes, I'm busy, but that's no excuse. I suck. But I will do it.
Did you happen to see Ellen yesterday? Matt Damon was on, talking about the time he was filming in Miami and some guys were going out on the town. He didn't really feel up to it, but went anyway. It's a good thing he did--one of the bartenders became his wife, and they now have a happy life together with four kids. He felt fate played a role in their meeting. The moral of the story, he said, was, "Go out to the bar!"
If you read Bastard Husband, you know we met when I was travelling for business and I decided to check out the hotel lounge instead of ordering room service. Had I cocooned it that night, my entire life would look differently today. Maybe better, maybe worse--who knows. But it definitely would not look like it does now. Without B.H. there'd be no book, that's for sure. Would I have eventually become a writer? Maybe; I'd dabbled a bit and have been a technical writer for two decades now. Would I have gotten into performing stand-up? Doubtful. Would I have ended up in Las Vegas? I can't imagine how.
I met my first husband, Chris, in a bar in Albany--the Last Chance Saloon of all places. He was a friend of a friend, and actually, I'd met him briefly before at a party. Chances are had I not gone out with my girlfriends that night I would have connected with him eventually. I met Mike at a meeting of the Henderson Writers' Group. At the time I was the vice president and attended nearly every meeting. Had Mike not showed up at that one, he probably would have made it to another meeting and I'd have met him sooner or later. But had I not ventured down to the lounge in the Buffalo Marriott that night almost 11 years ago, I probably never would have crossed paths with B.H. It's freaky to think that a seemingly inconsequential decision would, in fact, have such a profound impact on the course of my life.
How about you? How is your life entirely different because you decided against staying in? Are you glad you did?