Before I left for Idaho on Saturday, I picked up a People magazine in the airport--required reading for flying. Heidi Klum was on the cover; as you probably know, she and Seal are reportedly splitting up after almost 7 years of marriage.
I take celebrity splits hard, especially when the couple appears to be so meant for each other. Of course, from our vantage point, we don't know what really goes on, but nonetheless, when the picture looks so bright and beautiful from the outside, there's a sadness to seeing it fade. It's enough to make you wonder, are most people destined for a good run of a few years and anything beyond that is basically a demonstration of one's ability to endure?
Having recently gotten hitched myself, I hate to think of marriage in that way. Mike and I are so sickeningly in love you'd want to projectile vomit. As it should be, though--we're only just a couple of months into our marriage. This is the third time for both of us and don't think we're not aware of the statistics that say we have like a 5 percent chance of "making it." Add kids into the mix, along with his ADD and the fact that just about everything bugs the shit out of me and you'd wonder how we ever got together in the first place. And then we went and got married.
Crazy, huh? We couldn't be happier. We have a lot going for us on the compatibility scale; we share a lot of common interests (we met at the Henderson Writers Group), are truly best friends and work everyday to build our partnership. There have been a lot of lessons learned in the 50+ years we've been on earth and we're consciously trying to apply those lessons toward cultivating our relationship.
But still, there are no guarantees. If a breakup can happen to Heidi and Seal and Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins and Thurston Moore and Kim Gordon of Sonic Youth (my absolute favorite celebrity couple), then is anyone safe?
In one of his songs, Jackson Browne says, "That magic feeling never seems to last." Despite our pasts, we have to believe that's simply not true. A couple of weeks ago from the back seat as we rode down the highway, Mike's 7-year-old daughter wished on a star that "Dad and Linda never get divorced." You can bet we'll try like hell to make her wish come true.