Thursday, February 23, 2012

Nobody does anything perfectly the first time

Tuesday night I had my fifth ballet class.  I can tell I’m getting better at it. My legs are much stronger—in my first class I had to literally pull myself up from a grand plie using the strength of my arm on the barre.  Now I can rise semi-gracefully.   I’m also feeling a little more coordinated, though believe me, most of my floor work is still spastic at best.  We're talking blackmail video.
Because I feel I’m doing better, I’m enjoying the class more.  That’s human nature—as we gain confidence, we move further into our comfort zone.  I wasn’t quite so happy and comfortable during the first class; no one feels happy and comfortable when they don’t know what they’re doing.
The thing is, you can’t expect to be great at something the very first time you try it.  That may seem like a no-duh, but I think people tend to forget that.  My first stand-up performance was actually pretty decent (considering), but it can’t compare to the sets I do now.  My first blog posts are not a great representation of what my blog is today—hell, in the beginning I was giving grammar lessons!  And the first pages of what would become Bastard Husband: A Love Story, which I read back in 2004 to the kind and patient members of the Henderson Writers Group, barely resemble what ended up in print.
It’s a safe bet that anyone who’s ever achieved anything pretty much sucked at it right out of the gate. Do you think any of the actors up for an Academy Award this Sunday night gave a command performance their first time on stage?   Okay, maybe Meryl Streep.
My point is, it would be a shame not to try something because you can’t be at peace with your imperfection.   You could be holding yourself back from experiencing something truly wonderful.  
I am so, so digging my ballet class and now I’m sampling other classes, too.  I could live at The Stage—I'm a dancing fool!  I loved the belly dancing and Dance Fusion (a combination of various styles) classes I took recently.  Next Monday night I’m starting Showgirl 101—ha!—and I’ll probably look freakin’ ridiculous, but who the hell cares?   It certainly won't be the first time.  
So how about you?  I asked you last month what you always wanted to do.  Are you doing it yet?  If not, what's holding you back? 

4 comments:

TAD said...

Hey Linda -- Congrats on the ballet class. Pretty brave, I think....
This is gonna sound stupid, but I just dropped in to say thanx for "following" my blog, which I think you probably did quite awhile back but I didn't realize it. I just downloaded a new browser & now I can actually SEE things, even on my own blog. There were some people's blogs I couldn't even READ....
Anyway, thanks, & keep it up with the great optimistic posts. You're a role model for the rest of us who think we're Too Old to try Something New....

Julie said...

Good for you! I finally got started at the gym only to develop bursitis in my hip, and now I have to stop using it for two weeks. Sigh...

Taradharma said...

important lessons here, Linda. I am one of those people who can't handle their own imperfection at learning a new task - I give up because of it. But I look around at people who have made a success of their dream job/life and I see that it's taken them decades to get there, and that makes me also understand that perfection is not possible, that all is a work in progress.

I'm so happy for you that you've found this dance groove!

Mandy B said...

That studio looks amazing!!