tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post2787252170442742816..comments2023-08-02T05:44:41.504-07:00Comments on Linda Lou, live from Las Vegas!: Rejections no more… and a timely excerptVegas Linda Louhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-48125121707675494902009-03-17T20:19:00.000-07:002009-03-17T20:19:00.000-07:00WOW, Linda!I am so very glad that you made the dec...WOW, Linda!<BR/>I am so very glad that you made the decision to get this book in print! This IS your year...this is your time to shine.<BR/>I can't wait to read it.<BR/>AnnieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-59354721752446075242009-03-17T14:45:00.000-07:002009-03-17T14:45:00.000-07:00Looking -really- forward to the imminent publicati...Looking -really- forward to the imminent publication. Excerpts like this make me want to read the rest so badly. I also can't help but think about friends I have who were or are in similar situations and the biggest thing I always hear is that they think they're alone. That they're being unreasonable. More people need to see this kind of thing. Not as a self help book but merely as a story. I think people connect better that way.Toddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12626951865138336940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-55737374912528179612009-03-16T17:00:00.000-07:002009-03-16T17:00:00.000-07:00P.S. I think it would be FASCINATING for my belove...P.S. I think it would be FASCINATING for my beloved ex to write his account of the same time period. I wish he would! He writes a lot and could definitely do it. Maybe after my book reaches some level of success he'll come out with his perspective. I'll start nagging him about it now...Vegas Linda Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-49077644475375549892009-03-16T16:56:00.000-07:002009-03-16T16:56:00.000-07:00@ Carmen: I'm thinking it won't take more than a c...@ Carmen: I'm thinking it won't take more than a couple of months to have it out there for your reading enjoyment--yay!<BR/><BR/>@ Mikey: You are so not a bastard.<BR/><BR/>@ ISe: Thanks for commenting! You have some interesting insights. Rest assured that women have also been tempted to give their SO's a smack, though of course that, too, lies beyond the limits of decent behavior. <BR/><BR/>I don't know if women have a superior fuse, though we're probably less inclined to resort to violence. I don't think we have the innate warrior nature and we'd most likely get our asses kicked anyway. Maybe that's why we're good at biting with words. But I don't think we make any effort to cause anger in others. Anger is such a drag--why would we want to bring that out in someone?Vegas Linda Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-35439237111224591142009-03-16T16:35:00.000-07:002009-03-16T16:35:00.000-07:00First time commenting:You write very well from a w...First time commenting:<BR/><BR/>You write very well from a womans point of view. As a guy, I have been tempted to haul off and smack my SO from time to time. I know it would be wrong and immoral. I also understand in your situation, problems with alcohol caused your ex to lose his fragile temper.<BR/><BR/>On the other hand, I often feel that women have a superior fuse that causes men anguish. Men respond differently when they feel threatened. I also think women know exactly what to say to a man to get them angry. Is it safe to say that some women make every effort to cause the most anger in their choidce of words? <BR/><BR/>Since you are such a good writer, I would be interested in a good Male response to your book. <BR/><BR/>Regards<BR/><BR/>ISeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-7266558852135879602009-03-16T12:52:00.000-07:002009-03-16T12:52:00.000-07:00I'm looking forward to the sequel-- "Bastard Comme...I'm looking forward to the sequel-- "Bastard Commenter, A Blog Story".<BR/><BR/>Just don't use my real name in that one. That's all I ask.Hurricane Mikeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13216133452496563760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-16629209060613217022009-03-16T09:01:00.000-07:002009-03-16T09:01:00.000-07:00I love it! I can't wait to read the book. Good f...I love it! I can't wait to read the book. Good for you for going the self publishing route - I am proud of you. When can we buy it?CarmenSinCityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12587202239830809100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-72036923152255541472009-03-16T06:04:00.000-07:002009-03-16T06:04:00.000-07:00@ Ken: Thank you for reading my blog and thanks ev...@ Ken: Thank you for reading my blog and thanks even more for commenting! I can't tell you how many times I've reconsidered that title, and for two reasons: 1) the book is more about my post-divorce journey than it actually is about my ex (though certainly reflections on that relationship are threaded throughout) and 2) the title, as you've say, implies bitterness. That said, I've decided to stay with it for one huge reason: the title gets attention. People remember it. It came to me one morning in the pool area of the Ramada Inn in St. George, Utah, where I'd spent the previous night due to an episode like the one in this excerpt. I sat in a lounge chair thinking, "What a bastard, but I love him." That's when I thought I had the makings of a book.<BR/><BR/>I'm considering offering two different covers. One will look like a plain brown wrapper with no writing on it. That way people can read it on the plane or at the beach and no one will know what they're reading. Gimmicky, I know!<BR/><BR/>You're right that you're not in the demographic I'm going after, which is women over 40, particularly divorced women. Believe me, they dig that title! <BR/><BR/>Again, thanks so much for your input. I truly appreciate your taking the time to comment.Vegas Linda Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-53580336159660623352009-03-16T03:13:00.000-07:002009-03-16T03:13:00.000-07:00Linda, Im a first time commenter, I've read your b...Linda, Im a first time commenter, I've read your blog a few times here and there. I must admit that I never thought Id read any excerpt from your book, but I actually enjoyed it very much. I actually wanted to read more, and that definitely doesn't happen often since the last book I read was 12+ years ago in college! <BR/><BR/>I probably dont fit your target demographic profile (35/male/asian), But I wanted to offer my thoughts if it is OK. Have you ever considered changing the name of your book? Just my novice opinion, I never would have gave a second look based on title alone. The title bastard husband conjures these images: bitter, blame everything on husband, complaining, difficult to please woman who isn't over her X. I thought, oh this is just another woman going thru a midlife crisis.<BR/><BR/>But after reading the excerpt realized it was a great story! Nut Im not so sure I would have read the excerpt based off title alone...Anyways, thats my novice opinion. All the best to you, and I hope everything works out for you.<BR/><BR/>KenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-86285448723515158732009-03-15T19:51:00.000-07:002009-03-15T19:51:00.000-07:00P.S. @ Chocolate: Thanks for checking out our Agin...P.S. @ Chocolate: Thanks for checking out our Aging Nymphs show on procrastination! It's a topic near and dear to my heart. Anyone who wants to listen to the archive can just click the show title on the right sidebar. The show will start right up.Vegas Linda Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-42359896400290769382009-03-15T19:44:00.000-07:002009-03-15T19:44:00.000-07:00@ Chocolate Covered Girlfriend: I'll share everyth...@ Chocolate Covered Girlfriend: I'll share everything I can about self-publishing; I'm convinced it's the way to go, at least in this economy. Don't get frustrated about rejections. The publishing houses are in tough shape these days and will go only with known entities; it's not a reflection of the quality of your work. <BR/><BR/>@ Anonymous jumper from Mikey's blog: I am indeed looking into Kindle. I'll probably have a presence there before the paper version of the book comes out. Thanks for checking out my blog!<BR/><BR/>@ Travel Girl: Up until last October, Bastard Husband and I were in almost daily contact, even though he's been living in New Zealand since 2004. Now that he knows I've been seeing someone, and quite seriously, I may hear from him once a week or less. I can tell when he's drinking because that's when I get a bunch of emails from him. I can't imagine he'll ever stop drinking; it certainly would be in his best interest if he did, but I don't see it happening. Just my sense.Vegas Linda Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-61742487185302395972009-03-15T19:17:00.000-07:002009-03-15T19:17:00.000-07:00I'll be right there with Jules, reading the manusc...I'll be right there with Jules, reading the manuscript while you sleep.<BR/><BR/>Did he ever quit drinking?travel girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08290964396289493443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-63601115266084840992009-03-15T18:48:00.000-07:002009-03-15T18:48:00.000-07:00Hi LL,I'm a jumper from Mikey's blog.What would it...Hi LL,<BR/>I'm a jumper from Mikey's blog.<BR/>What would it cost to enable your book on kindle?<BR/><BR/>just a thought.<BR/>Good Luck<BR/><BR/>bdogAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-55939873937939241982009-03-15T11:35:00.000-07:002009-03-15T11:35:00.000-07:00Sounds like a poignant and provocative read. I wil...Sounds like a poignant and provocative read. I will look forward to seeing you in print.Fragrant Liarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09452052210826471034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-48843172532832469812009-03-15T07:25:00.000-07:002009-03-15T07:25:00.000-07:00Linda,I look forward to reading your book. Michell...Linda,<BR/><BR/>I look forward to reading your book. <BR/><BR/>MichelleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-53922696510409960332009-03-15T04:35:00.000-07:002009-03-15T04:35:00.000-07:00I'll be waiting for your book! And I hope any abu...I'll be waiting for your book! And I hope any abused women out there will find you too and take heed to your words of experience. <BR/><BR/>Di<BR/>The Blue Ridge GalAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-47770422284490036482009-03-14T23:25:00.000-07:002009-03-14T23:25:00.000-07:00I'm so anxious to buy a copy (autographed, right?)...I'm so anxious to buy a copy (autographed, right?) I know how frustrating it can be to get rejections...my sister and I have counted at least 62 rejections on our kids book. But, if all goes well for you in self publishing....I may be picking your brain. This is going to be a best seller for you! I just know it.<BR/><BR/>By the way, I listened to your blogradio on procrastination. You and your sister and so cute together...the way you talk back and forth and of course, totally honest too!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04459265311205890622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-12475349320039894442009-03-14T20:51:00.000-07:002009-03-14T20:51:00.000-07:00I am so excited to read your book. Your story and ...I am so excited to read your book. Your story and the choice to self publish is inspiring to me. Also lighting a fire under my lazy ass to get myself writing something about my wack story...<BR/><BR/>go, Linda, go!!!Krissyfacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12920615943684795695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-34246828692280865612009-03-14T17:07:00.000-07:002009-03-14T17:07:00.000-07:00Thanks to all for your support and offers to promo...Thanks to all for your support and offers to promote my book through your blogs. Very much appreciated!<BR/><BR/>@ Lilly: Women often wonder if it's their fault and I've heard comments like, "You must have drove him to drink." Yeah, right.<BR/><BR/>@ Barbara: I think compassionate people are especially prone to abuse since they see the good in the person and believe he really doesn't mean it. I adored my ex, but I now realize I was more in love with the person I thought he could be than the person who exhibited that behavior.<BR/><BR/>@ Linda: You're right--there are no class barriers, as we see with so many celebrity cases.Vegas Linda Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17653067016683159930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-39076047836063379552009-03-14T16:01:00.000-07:002009-03-14T16:01:00.000-07:00Having been brought up in a violent household I th...Having been brought up in a violent household I think it is vital that women know there is a way out. <BR/><BR/>Domestic abuse, whether physical or verbal, has no class barriers.lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05392205573326695683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-51608486627149773142009-03-14T15:34:00.000-07:002009-03-14T15:34:00.000-07:00I have been wanting to buy your book ever since I ...I have been wanting to buy your book ever since I think I found you via Roseanne's blog (I think as it was so long ago). You have a great story to tell. so you can count on one sale from me. <BR/><BR/>Well I was in a violent relationship and like you I used to think no, it cant be happening. I am smart, nice, educated this kind fo thing happens to other people. I guess I chose to be a victim by failing to acknowledge reality and having no self esteem so when he told me it was my fault I believed him. The shock when it happens the first time is hard to describe. I never understood and to this day I dont really get how the dynamics work. I will never judge anyone again as to why they stay in these relationships. Its not that simple. I also have never had anything to do with police before until my time with him. Humiliation is something you get used to. Thats why we keep abusers secrets hidden. My ex never even had alcohol to blame for his anger management problems, more likely he was borderline pathological. Regardless of all the counselling I have had there is still a little part of me that wonders was it me that set him off. Even though I know better that type of control is hard to shake. <BR/><BR/>The good thing is that I love myself enough never to let anyone cross my boundaries. If I see a red flag I am out of there!<BR/><BR/>All the best with the self publishing and I will be interested to see how you get on. You have achieved lots already and this one will get done and will be a success. Besides we can all advertise it on our blogs!!!Lillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14597193176450931002noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-18741396795636954012009-03-14T13:23:00.000-07:002009-03-14T13:23:00.000-07:00Linda, your book is going to be great. Of course ...Linda, your book is going to be great. Of course I will be buying at minimum one copy and of course I will be broadcasting to the world that they should read it.<BR/><BR/>This account of the night you called the police touches home in several ways. I think many women will be able to relate to what you have to share.<BR/><BR/>Why is it that the ones we love so dearly are the ones that hurt us so painfully?Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-38830598351221158692009-03-14T13:07:00.000-07:002009-03-14T13:07:00.000-07:00Intense. Well written. I was right there with you ...Intense. Well written. I was right there with you in the moment. You go, girl, and get that baby self-published! We Blogging Babes will help you get the word out. Cheers! DebbieDebra Lynn Sheltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08238268767406623274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-34322953337524718362009-03-14T13:00:00.000-07:002009-03-14T13:00:00.000-07:00WOW...I will buy a copy!!WOW...I will buy a copy!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4043113139515346307.post-59324124476144168082009-03-14T10:24:00.000-07:002009-03-14T10:24:00.000-07:00I can't wait to read the whole thing!I can't wait to read the whole thing!Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10175048741176008054noreply@blogger.com