Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Back in Las Vegas and a question for you about Joan Rivers

Sorry for the late post today. Last night Mike and I went to the Henderson Writers' Group meeting and then came home and talked a while and then watched The Last Waltz (amazing on 58" and surround sound) and then talked some more and yadda, yadda, yadda it was about 4 a.m. when we finally fell asleep. Then this morning I got up and out to have an early lunch with one of my friends from my old work, followed by some errands and a little Ross Dress-for-Less shopping. (Came out empty handed, if you can believe that.)

Busy, busy...

It's probably not too surprising that I haven't missed Las Vegas since I've been having such a good time in Albany, but man, I sure as hell missed Mike. We're having a fantastic time and though God knows (and long-time readers know) I've wanted to freakin' murder him more than once, I adore that man. Love him.

As I sat next to him on the couch last night, filled with such amore, I got to thinking about the new documentary Joan Rivers: A Piece of Work I saw last week. I know what some of you are thinking: "I'd rather stick a flaming needle in my eye." Yeah, she can be abrasive and I've said many times that I think she's very funny, but also terribly mean-spirited. More on that some other time.

I have a lot to say about the film--a lot--it really was wonderful and very well done. Surprisingly, I didn't have to scold anyone in the theater for talking, so you know it must have been captivating. I'm not kidding--I loved it and found it fascinating. If you're at all interested in stand-up comedy, it's a must-see.

Anyway, at one point Rivers talks about her husband, Edgar Rosenberg, who committed suicide in 1987 after having been fired by Fox as the producer of her late night show. Rivers says,
"Were we madly in love with each other? No."

"Did we have a happy marriage? Yes."
That brief scene struck me. I can't imagine marrying someone I'm not madly in love with. (Okay, insert your "But Linda, aren't you twice divorced?" comment here.) You know what I mean. I just can't imagine looking at someone and be thinking, "Well, he'll be a good provider. I'll be financially secure. Yeah, I want to marry him."


Without the passion, I say NO! a thousand times. I could never do it. I'd have to be madly in love to marry someone; anything less seems like settling out of fear and insecurity.

I'd love to know what you think about this.


Bar L. said...

Sweetie, the only reason I am sitting here single at my age is because I am holding out for madly in love.

Its wonderful that you and Mike have that :)

Anonymous said...

I married my first and second husbands and I was not madly in love. This time around with LW...I'm utterly madly in love. I sometimes look at him and wonder where he was all my life? Is it perfect? No. But I love him completely and I feel his love for me. That's what makes us stronger.

chocolatecovereddaydreams.blogspot.com said...

I agree...madly in love...the kind of love that keeps you thinking about one another 24/7 and looking forward to hearing each other's voices...never getting tired of being together...that kind of love!!

Julie D said...

I wasn't madly in love when I got married. Definitely wasn't when we got divorced. LOL I'm holding out for hot sex and a big bank account this time around.

Wait, you left RD4L with NOTHING? OMG, are you okay?????????

Tasha said...

Well, I think that Joan has a point, and that being madly in love isn't absolutely necessary for a happy marriage.


Look at her face. Do you really want to ponder opinions that come out of that face? She obviously isn't of right mind to allow so much botox.

Or then again, maybe Edgar just had a really small penis and Joan owned good vibrators.

Just sayin.

gayle said...

They were probably madly in love at one time but it went away!!So they just loved each other.

Andrea said...

My girlfriend's mother would always tell us girls: "ladies--the FIRST time you marry for MONEY, the second time you marry for LOVE."

I'm still waiting for my Prince Charming, the older I get the more I'm starting to think that people just settle so they wont be alone. I'm probably going to be 45, single with about 12 dogs (I don't like cats). I, however, refuse to settle ;)

Donna B. said...

For me, it all about being "in love" and "in like". Once the age factor hits, you better like the man or woman you are with.Respect is another priority. Humor is the glue that holds it all together.

Great sex does not necessarily lead to a great marriage. if you don't have the other ingredients, what used to be considered great, turns repulsive and irritating.